The Autumn that appears as a Spring...Before you Fall in Love

By Nisaar Y. Nadiadwala clouds-of-love-heartlarge

   If you are an  average looking girl, a boy from your class or neighbour, will appreciate you a lot. The dictionaries of human relations call it 'flattery', artificial praise. If the boy is smart in talking he will pass innocent comments with a mischievous flavour to draw your attention.  In the world of cheaters it is called 'flirting'. Millions of girls across the world , have slipped into these pits and found it difficult to come out . They discover that those roses were thorns in disguise.


 Why should you fall in love?  What will you get after exchanging your heart in return of  pain?

    In seclusion, as well in crowd, you will be  living with sighs like a crazy, insane. You will feel lonely even in a gathering, just thinking about him. Trodding on such dreamy  paths  , you rarely reach your dream palace. A Broken heart, a  shattered dream,   a feeling  of betrayal,  and self condemnation as an award for your folly await for you.


  How many expectations from him ! How many late nights ! How many long waits poking tireless messages! It will be too late when  you realise that these walls are not of bricks but sands  and can crumble even with  a puff. 


Then one day he will say " Pardon  me ! I will pray for you that you get a better boy than me. You see my Mom is not agreeing to our relations and I cannot disobey my mother because it is a sin ". Your dream castle was made up of sand.  It will be like someone has pushed you down into a lonely valley with nobody to share your agony. One day you may discover that he is into another affair. You are replaced by another prettier girl. Now you will look into the mirror and ask yourself "Was I really as beautiful as he praised me earlier?"  The reply of your mirror will give you an extreme inferiority complex about your looks.


    The pain of the heart cannot be understood by others around you. No thermometers can give you the temperature nor can any cardiology test can inform the world what pain a broken heart undergoes. When the next spring arrives, it will bring nostalgia and  only warm tears, wasting your time, wasting your life in memories of your EX-DEAR.


 You may call him ungrateful, untrustworthy and curse him for days but  weren't you ungrateful  and untrustworthy when you quietly slipped out with him without your parent's approval or knowledge, and they kept on thinking that your are extremely modest. Were you not wrong when you secretly messaged him romantic messages and remained busy chatting with him when your poor mother needed you in domestic help?


  Don't forget that everyone cannot get the  Moon but if you observe self restraint then Allah may give you soon.

If you love the world for your beloved then you may lose your akhera. But if You love Sabr over sins then it is the promise of Allah that you cherish. The choice is yours.. Remember " Allah intends easiness upon you, He does not intend  to put you into difficulties..( Surah al Baqarah verse 185 )


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